Expecting a baby is a lot, whether or not it is your first. In addition to the stresses of pregnancy itself and adjusting to a shifting family dynamic as well as new demands on your time and attention, there is a horde of businesses eager to take advantage of your uncertainty and vulnerability.

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Unsolicited Advice

Maybe you didn't ask, but here is a short list of some important items. These are the kinds of things, when we shared them, friends and acquaintances wished they'd learned earlier. So here they are for you now.

Of course they may or may not apply to you. That's fine. We aren't here to judge or dictate the right way to parent. It's just ideas for doing it your own way, if you haven't quite figured out what "your way" is yet.

Babies have a broad range of normal for just about any aspect of their health and wellness. It is commonly accepted that normal weights, heights, and personalities cover a broad range. Why, then, is it so hard to imagine that a healthy baby will make its first words or take its first steps in a broad range of time?

As you assess your recovery and acclimation, and as you assess your child's development, try not to hold anyone to the narrow "deadlines" that we often see published. It will lead to less worry and a happier life.

Amber necklaces are like medicine for babies. It's that simple. They don't cost much, never run out, and bear zero health risks.

I'm not even going to pretend how they work, or that science backs up this idea. (But see how I framed that link to make it look like the scientific support is there?) Take it with a grain of salt, but I took the necklace off one of our boys when he was teething and it was a miserable couple days.

Whether it genuinely provides a low-level analgesic or just looks dope and helps with quasi-crystal-tree-sap energy (and woo noises) is irrelevant to us. The necklaces look great, didn't cost much at all, and clearly helped our kids. Just make sure you get a length that is safe and responsible for your children's use. Too small, and it could pose a strangulation risk. Too long, and it's also a strangulation risk (getting it caught on something) as well as a choking hazard. Safety first!

Other teething aids, like silocone necklaces, are not something we recommend as strongly. Whatever you do, just make sure it's food-safe! Fun-shaped silicon mold ice trays are cool for making teething shapes that babies can enjoy without choking risk, too. Ice can be so soothing to gum on.


We can give you no greater advice than this: Wear your baby.
(if you are able)

Strollers are a hassle. Wearing your baby means you won't need them. Clip in car seats are a hassle, and evidence is showing that they may encourage parents to leave babies in too long, potentially leading to cranial deformities. Wearing your baby means you won't need them. Babywearing provides so many benefits that alternative "conveniences" deny parents. Unless you are physically unable, there is no reason to not wear your baby.

  • Protecting the baby from lackadaisical knuckleheads is simpleback
  • Nursing is easier
  • Parent heartbeats are soothing
  • Fathers can babywear shirtless at home for skin-on-skin contact, too
  • Wearing babies in public means people are less likely to touch them without asking
  • Humans can go where strollers can't
  • Stairs, for instance
  • No tired arms when you have to abandon the stroller
  • Functional Fitness Partner, WOO!

As a father, I would wear the babies while I was doing housework or even sitting at the computer. It soothed them to sleep, it enabled us to bond, and perhaps most importantly, I was able to get some work done for a change!

For new parents who are accustomed to seeing live performances (of music, theater, or otherwise), a couple of simple recommendations will do the trick.

  • Hearing Protection: Quality ear muffs like BabyBanz will protect the hearing of your baby, toddler, child, and self. Plus they look super cool. (The kids range, in our experience, covers everything but preemies. Terry even put them on his massive noggin and they fit comfortably.)
  • Babywearing: See above for more on this, but picture yourself at a show with a stroller. Now picture yourself holding the kid in your arms or on your shoulders the whole time. Now breathe a sigh of relief that babywearing is so comfortable and easy (for most).
  • Spot the Dangers: Depending on your parenting style, you may not want your child around smokers, in the mosh pit, mingling with drunks, or raving with LEDs. But even if you're taking your kids to a dusty outdoor show, there are dust masks they can wear. Even if you're headed to a four-day yoga and music festival, you can make sure your kids aren't sneaking onto party buses. Just plan ahead as best you can and be flexible.

Disposable diapers absolutely horrifying. Seriously, they're beyond awful. They're more expensive, more hassle, more dangerous, and more harmful than cloth diapers.

Cloth diapers have become uncommon in the US, and that's a travesty. Between the tried-and-true tri-fold cotton nappies AND the double-gusseted blowout-preventing magic of Kanga Care Rumparooz, there's hardly more that you could ask for ...or is there?

Ok, the only thing that could be better than using cloth diapers is if someone else did most of the washing for you. And here in the Denver area, Bundle Baby provides diaper service! For an extremely reasonable price (still cheaper than disposables), you can leave a waterproof bag of super-stank nappies on your porch, and they'll magically be replaced with a fresh bag of super-clean ones!

Even better, you can add the service to your registry, allowing people to cover one or more weeks of service each. If nothing else, get a few weeks of service while you acclimate to your new life with baby. After that, you can determine if you want to save a couple bucks and launder the nappies yourself.

(Note that you scrape the poo out of the covers and launder those yourself. It's not that tough of a job, to be honest. And scraping the poo into the toilet is something you're supposed to do with disposables anyway. Seriously - check a package the next time you're in Target.)

In summary, cloth diapers are...

  • Better for baby
  • Better for the environment
  • Cheaper to use in the long run
  • Barely more work than disposables
  • Resellable after use (seriously - properly cared for, the covers and nappies can be used for years; most of our covers lasted through both of our sons and were still in great shape!)